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Importance of Non Traditional Therapy

Updated: Apr 26

The validity of any therapy, no matter what the treatment method or goal, is found in its overall effect on the life of the client. Good therapy must do more than alleviate the specific symptom for which the client seeks treatment in the first place. A good therapy must have positive effects that radiate throughout every aspect of the client’s personality, every aspect of their life situation. If the treatment is right for that person, it will  ring a general sense of freedom and wellbeing. Besides reducing distress, the move to health will bring greater awareness of intrinsic power. 

The most critical and often the most painful part of the psychotherapy for the client is to look honestly at feelings they have transferred onto the therapist from previous relationships. This emotional displacement of feelings from the past is called transference, and is perhaps the most powerful factor in the healing of the psyche. The client sees the therapist through the eyes of the child they once were, and to some degree still is. The transferred feelings include fear, anger, aggressive-defensiveness and sexual desire. 

Oftentimes, “the client” may react to the therapist with suspicion and even hostility. And, while such reactions of transference can occur in any relationship, the therapist-client relationship stimulates particularly strong transference reactions due to its dependant, intense and intimate nature. 

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The therapist must be able to tolerate these transferred feelings and should not prematurely cut off the client’s expression of transference reactions because it makes the therapist feel angry, uncomfortable, or embarrassed. Through a gentle and tolerant interpretation of the transference, the client can begin to separate themselves for their long held perceptual and behavioral patterns.   

Fear and hostility are on the other side of the eroticized transference. Clients may scoff at the interpretations a therapist has to offer but nevertheless they fear the therapist's criticism. They often try to protect themselves from positive feelings towards the therapist by hiding behind sarcastic comments and expressions of skepticism.

Negative transference should always be interpreted in therapy. Often, the more traumatic the early relationships with the parents, the more intense the repressed rage is in therapy. Clients often don't work well with aloof distant therapists. Therapists trained in traditional free association methods as Freud advised “ Opaque” are intolerable to a large number of clients. 

The client often desires and requires an authentic personal contact with a therapist who is emotionally present. The therapist must never be austere, aloof or authoritarian.

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I try to be the “good father” to my clients. Emotionally present, active and challenging, but always accepting. 

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